Technology-Facilitated Abuse: Stalkerware, Tracking, and What to Do
Technology can offer many benefits, but it can also be misused to monitor, control, or harass. Understanding digital abuse tactics can help you recognize warning signs and take steps to protect your privacy and safety.
What Is Technology-Facilitated Abuse?
Technology-facilitated abuse involves using digital tools like smartphones, apps, GPS trackers, or spyware to monitor or control someone without their consent. This can include stalkerware—software secretly installed on a device to track locations, record calls, or access messages.
In cities across the US and Canada, these tactics may be part of a broader pattern of abuse and can be difficult to detect without awareness of the signs.
Common Signs You May Be Experiencing Digital Abuse
- Unexplained battery drain or device overheating
- Strange text messages or emails with links you didn’t open
- Unfamiliar apps or icons on your phone or computer
- Notifications about logins from unknown locations
- Receiving calls or messages that suggest someone else knows your activities
- Sudden loss of privacy on social media or messaging platforms
How Technology Abuse Impacts Safety and Privacy
Technology abuse can affect your sense of safety by invading private spaces, making you feel watched or controlled. It may also interfere with your ability to seek help or connect with supportive people. Being aware of these risks is important for planning your next steps.
What You Can Do
- Use a safe device: If possible, use a device that your abuser doesn’t have access to when searching for help or information.
- Check your device: Look for unfamiliar apps or changes in settings. Consider consulting a trusted tech-savvy friend or professional for assistance.
- Change your passwords: Update passwords on important accounts using strong, unique combinations. Avoid using easily guessable information.
- Enable two-factor authentication: This adds a layer of protection to your accounts by requiring a second form of verification.
- Limit location sharing: Turn off location services on apps and devices when not needed.
- Use privacy settings: Review and adjust privacy controls on social media and messaging apps.
- Consider professional help: Some organizations and experts specialize in digital safety and can guide you safely through this process.
When to Seek Help
If you feel unsafe or notice signs of stalking or tracking, reaching out to trusted local resources can provide support tailored to your needs. This might include legal advice about protection orders or connecting with therapists experienced in trauma.
Always prioritize your safety when seeking help. Use a private browser or safe device, and avoid sharing sensitive information if you suspect your devices may be monitored.
Frequently Asked Questions
- Can I remove stalkerware from my phone on my own?
- Removing stalkerware can be complex. If you suspect your device is infected, consider consulting a trusted tech specialist or using reputable security apps designed to detect spyware.
- Is it illegal to install tracking apps on someone’s phone without permission?
- Laws vary by location, but unauthorized tracking or monitoring often violates privacy laws. Local authorities or legal professionals can provide guidance specific to your city.
- How can I tell if my location is being tracked?
- Signs include unexpected battery drain, unfamiliar apps, or notifications about location access. Reviewing app permissions and location settings can help identify tracking.
- Are there local services that help with digital abuse?
- Many cities have organizations or advocates knowledgeable about technology-facilitated abuse. Searching confidentially for local resources can connect you to support.
- What should I do if I find evidence of digital abuse?
- Prioritize your safety. Avoid confronting the abuser directly. Consider saving evidence securely and seek advice from trusted professionals or support services.
- Can changing my phone number or email help?
- Yes, changing contact information and limiting who has access to it can reduce unwanted monitoring. Be sure to update contacts only when safe to do so.
If you want local help, you can privately browse lawyers, therapists, shelters, and hotlines near you at DV.Support.
Technology can be a tool for both connection and control. By learning about digital abuse and taking thoughtful steps, you can protect your privacy and work towards safety. Remember, support is available, and you don’t have to face this alone.