How Survivors Secretly Prepare to Leave

Documents that may help in your situation

If you're filing or preparing for court, you may need:

📄 Medical Records Release

Authorizes release of your medical records to use as evidence if needed.

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Assess Your Situation

Understanding your circumstances is the first step. Take time to evaluate your safety and the dynamics of your relationship. Consider factors such as your partner’s behavior, your support network, and your financial situation. This will help you to plan effectively.

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Develop a Safety Plan

A safety plan is crucial. This includes identifying safe places you can go, planning how to leave quickly, and considering what to do in emergencies. Discuss your plan with trusted friends or family if possible.

Gather Important Documents

Collect important documents that you may need when you leave. This could include:

ID (passport, driver’s license)
Financial documents (bank statements, pay stubs)
Medical records
Legal documents (marriage certificate, custody papers)
Any other important personal documents

Secure Finances

Establishing financial independence is essential. Open a separate bank account if you can, and consider saving a small amount of money regularly. Look into community resources that may provide financial assistance or support.

Find Support Services

Reach out to local organizations in Port Hope that specialize in supporting survivors of domestic violence. They can provide you with resources, counseling, and legal advice. Remember, you are not alone.

What to Bring / Document Checklist

ID and important documents
Clothing for yourself and your children
Medications and medical supplies
Mobile phone and charger
Money or access to funds
Comfort items for children (toys, books)

What Happens Next

After leaving, it’s important to seek shelter and support. You may want to stay with friends or family, or you might consider a local shelter. Stay connected with your support network and consider legal options to protect yourself.

Frequently Asked Questions

1. What should I do if I feel unsafe right now?
Call local emergency services immediately.

2. How can I find local support services?
You can search online for local shelters and hotlines or visit DV.Support for resources.

3. Is it safe to talk about my plans?
Be cautious about who you share your plans with; choose trusted individuals.

4. What if I don’t have any money to leave?
Look for local organizations that provide financial assistance for survivors.

5. How do I know if I’m ready to leave?
Trust your instincts; if you feel unsafe or unhappy, it may be time to consider leaving.

If you want local help, you can privately browse lawyers, therapists, shelters, and hotlines near you at DV.Support.