How Survivors Secretly Prepare to Leave

Documents that may help in your situation

If you're filing or preparing for court, you may need:

📄 Medical Records Release

Authorizes release of your medical records to use as evidence if needed.

These are optional tools — use what feels right for you.

Leaving an unhealthy situation can be a challenging and emotional journey. In East End-Danforth, many survivors find themselves planning their exit carefully to ensure their safety and well-being.

Assess Your Situation

Understanding your circumstances is the first step. Identify any immediate dangers and evaluate your support system, including friends, family, or local resources.

📄 Want to start the process yourself?

Access state-specific legal forms — ready to fill and file.

Browse Legal Forms

Create a Safety Plan

Developing a safety plan involves practical steps to take when you decide to leave. Consider the following:

Choose a safe place to go.
Decide on a code word or phrase for trusted friends or family.
Plan your exit during a time when your partner is not around.

Gather Important Documents

Having the right documents is crucial for a smooth transition. Collect and store the following:

Identification (ID, passport)
Financial information (bank statements, credit cards)
Legal documents (marriage certificate, custody papers)
Medical records
Contact information for local support services

What to Bring / Document Checklist

Clothing and personal items
Essential medications
Money or means of accessing funds
Cell phone and chargers
Emergency contacts

Establish a Support Network

Connecting with local resources can provide necessary support. Reach out to:

Friends or family who can offer shelter
Local shelters and hotlines for immediate assistance
Therapists or counselors for emotional support

What Happens Next?

After leaving, it’s essential to focus on your safety and well-being:

Consider changing locks or securing your home.
Seek legal advice on protective orders, especially if you have children.
Engage with local support services for ongoing assistance.

Frequently Asked Questions

What should I do if I feel unsafe leaving?: Contact local emergency services or a trusted friend for immediate help.
Can I leave with my children?: Yes, but it's important to understand your legal rights. Consulting a local attorney can provide guidance.
How can I find local resources in East End-Danforth?: Search for local shelters and support services online or through community centers.
What if I don’t have any money?: Look for local shelters that offer emergency assistance and support.
Can I talk to someone anonymously?: Yes, many hotlines offer confidential support and advice.

If you want local help, you can privately browse lawyers, therapists, shelters, and hotlines near you at DV.Support.