How Survivors Secretly Prepare to Leave

Leaving a difficult situation can be daunting, especially for survivors who need to ensure their safety. This guide outlines practical steps to help you prepare for a safe exit.

Assessing Your Situation

Before making any decisions, take time to evaluate your circumstances. Consider your safety, emotional health, and support systems. If you're in immediate danger, please contact local emergency services.

Creating a Safety Plan

A well-thought-out safety plan is crucial. Identify safe places you can go if needed, and establish a code word with trusted friends or family to signal for help.

Gathering Important Documents

Start collecting important documents that you may need to take with you, such as:

• Identification (driver's license, passport)
• Birth certificates
• Social Security cards
• Financial documents (bank statements, pay stubs)
• Legal papers (court orders, custody agreements)

Creating an Emergency Fund

Having funds set aside can make a significant difference. Consider discreetly setting up a separate bank account or saving cash in a secure location.

Building a Support Network

Reach out to trusted friends, family, or local organizations that can provide emotional support and practical assistance. It’s essential to have people you can turn to.

Planning Your Exit

Once you feel ready, create a detailed plan of what your departure will look like. Consider transportation, where you will stay, and how you will communicate with your support network.

What to Bring / Document Checklist

• Clothing for yourself and any children
• Essential toiletries
• Medications and medical records
• Any necessary personal items (like pets)
• Important documents listed above

What Happens Next

After leaving, prioritize your safety and well-being. Consider seeking legal assistance for protection orders or custody arrangements. Counseling can also provide support during this transition.

Frequently Asked Questions

1. What should I do if I feel unsafe at home?

If you feel unsafe, contact local law enforcement or a crisis hotline for immediate assistance.

2. How can I find local resources in Pomona?

You can visit DV.Support for a list of local lawyers, therapists, and shelters.

3. Is it safe to tell someone about my plans?

Share your plans only with trusted individuals who can support you without compromising your safety.

4. What if I don’t have money to leave?

Consider reaching out to local organizations for financial assistance and support in planning your departure.

5. How can I cope emotionally after leaving?

Seek counseling or support groups to help process your feelings and experiences in a safe environment.

If you want local help, you can privately browse lawyers, therapists, shelters, and hotlines near you at DV.Support.