How Survivors Secretly Prepare to Leave
Assess Your Situation
Take time to evaluate your circumstances. Identify the risks involved and consider your options. Understanding your environment can help you formulate a plan that feels right for you.
Gather Important Documents
Start collecting essential documents that you may need when you leave. This may include:
- Identification (driver’s license, passport)
- Financial documents (bank statements, pay stubs)
- Medical records
- Legal documents (marriage certificate, custody papers)
- Any evidence of abuse (photos, texts, emails)
Create a Safety Plan
A safety plan is essential for ensuring your well-being during the transition. Consider the following:
- Identify a safe place to go when you leave.
- Develop a code word with trusted friends or family for emergencies.
- Plan how you will transport yourself and your belongings.
- Know how to access local resources, such as shelters or hotlines.
What to Bring / Document Checklist
When you decide to leave, having a checklist can help ensure you have everything you need:
- Personal identification
- Money or access to funds
- Clothes and personal items
- Important documents (as mentioned above)
- Items that provide comfort (photos, mementos)
What Happens Next
After you leave, focus on your safety and well-being. This may involve:
- Finding a safe place to stay, such as a shelter or with friends.
- Seeking legal help to understand your rights and options.
- Obtaining support through counseling or therapy.
- Connecting with local resources for ongoing support.
Frequently Asked Questions
1. What should I do if I am in immediate danger?
Call local emergency services for immediate assistance.
2. How can I find a lawyer?
You can search online for local legal resources or contact DV.Support for referrals.
3. Are there shelters available in Metairie?
Yes, there are local shelters that can provide temporary housing and resources.
4. How can I keep my plans secret?
Use private browsing modes and ensure your phone is secure. Be discreet in conversations.
5. What if I don’t have money to leave?
Many shelters and organizations can provide financial assistance or resources to help you leave safely.
If you want local help, you can privately browse lawyers, therapists, shelters, and hotlines near you at DV.Support.