How Survivors Secretly Prepare to Leave

Leaving an unsafe situation can be daunting. Many survivors find it helpful to have a plan in place to ensure their safety and well-being as they take this significant step.

Assess Your Situation

Before making any decisions, it’s important to evaluate your situation. Consider factors such as:

• Your safety and the safety of your children or dependents.
• Access to finances and resources.
• Support systems available to you, including friends and family.

Create a Safety Plan

A safety plan can help you feel more secure as you prepare to leave. Here are some steps to develop your plan:

• Identify a safe place to go, whether it’s a friend’s home, a shelter, or a hotel.
• Establish a code word with trusted friends or family members that signals you need help.
• Plan your escape route and ensure you know how to get to your safe location quickly.

Gather Important Documents

Collecting essential documents beforehand can simplify your transition. Consider gathering the following:

• Identification (e.g., driver's license, passport).
• Financial documents (e.g., bank statements, pay stubs).
• Legal documents (e.g., marriage certificate, custody papers).
• Medical records and prescriptions.

Secure Finances

Financial independence is crucial when preparing to leave. Here are some tips to secure your finances:

• Open a separate bank account in your name.
• Save money discreetly, if possible, to cover initial expenses.
• Consider applying for financial assistance programs in your area.

Establish a Support Network

Building a support network can provide emotional and practical assistance. Reach out to:

• Friends or family members who can offer a safe place to stay.
• Local support groups or organizations focused on helping survivors.
• Therapists or counselors who specialize in trauma-informed care.

What to Bring / Document

As you prepare to leave, consider this checklist of items to bring:

• Identification and important documents.
• Clothing and personal items for yourself and any dependents.
• Medications and medical supplies.
• Money or credit cards.
• A phone and any necessary chargers.

What Happens Next

Once you leave, it’s important to take steps to protect yourself:

• Change your phone number and secure your online accounts.
• Consider filing for a restraining order if necessary.
• Continue to seek support from trusted friends, family, or professionals.

Frequently Asked Questions

Q1: What should I do if I’m in immediate danger?
A1: Call local emergency services immediately for help.

Q2: How do I find a shelter in Edenbridge-Humber Valley?
A2: You can contact local organizations or visit DV.Support for resources.

Q3: Can I get legal help without my partner knowing?
A3: Yes, you can seek legal advice privately. Consider consulting a qualified attorney.

Q4: What if I can’t take everything with me?
A4: Prioritize essential documents and items. You can return later if it’s safe.

Q5: How do I cope emotionally after leaving?
A5: It’s important to seek support from friends, family, or professionals to process your feelings.

If you want local help, you can privately browse lawyers, therapists, shelters, and hotlines near you at DV.Support.