How Survivors Secretly Prepare to Leave

Leaving an unhealthy situation can be daunting, but with thoughtful planning and support, it is possible. This guide provides actionable steps to help survivors prepare for a safe exit.

Assess Your Situation

Begin by evaluating your current environment. Identify any potential risks or challenges you might face when leaving. Understanding these factors will help you create a safer plan.

Create a Safety Plan

Develop a safety plan that includes specific steps you will take when you decide to leave. This might involve strategizing the best time to leave, ensuring that you have a safe place to go, and informing trusted friends or family members of your plans.

Secure Important Documents

Gather and secure important documents that you may need after leaving. This includes identification, financial documents, medical records, and any other paperwork that may assist you in your transition.

Financial Preparation

Consider your financial situation and prepare accordingly. This may involve saving money discreetly, opening a personal bank account, or seeking financial assistance from local resources.

Emotional Support

Reach out for emotional support from trusted friends, family, or professionals. Connecting with local shelters or hotlines can also provide vital resources and assistance during this time.

What to Bring / Document Checklist

• Identification (ID, passport)
• Birth certificates
• Social security cards
• Financial documents (bank statements, pay stubs)
• Medical records and prescriptions
• Contact information for trusted individuals
• Personal items (clothing, toiletries)

What Happens Next

After leaving, it's essential to focus on your safety and well-being. Consider finding a support group or therapist who specializes in trauma recovery. It’s important to take things one step at a time and prioritize your healing process.

FAQ

• Q: How do I know if I am ready to leave?
  A: Trust your instincts and feelings. If you feel unsafe or unhappy, it may be time to consider your options.
• Q: What if I can't leave right now?
  A: It's okay to take your time. Focus on planning and gathering resources to ensure your safety when you do decide to leave.
• Q: Can I get help with moving?
  A: Many local shelters and organizations offer assistance for survivors, including help with moving or finding temporary housing.
• Q: What if I have children?
  A: Your children's safety is paramount. Reach out to services that can help you create a plan that ensures their well-being.
• Q: How do I find local resources?
  A: You can use local directories or websites, such as DV.Support, to find lawyers, therapists, shelters, and hotlines near you.

If you want local help, you can privately browse lawyers, therapists, shelters, and hotlines near you at DV.Support.