How Survivors Secretly Prepare to Leave
Assess Your Situation
Begin by evaluating your circumstances. Consider your safety and any potential risks. Identify a safe space where you can go if needed.
Create a Safety Plan
Develop a comprehensive safety plan. This might include arranging a safe place to stay, identifying trusted friends or family members you can reach out to, and deciding on a method of communication that is secure.
Gather Important Documents
Start collecting essential documents such as identification, financial records, and medical information. Keep these items in a secure and easily accessible location.
Establish a Support Network
Reach out to trusted friends, family, or support groups. Having a support network can provide emotional support and practical help during this time.
Plan Financially
Assess your financial situation. If possible, set aside some funds in a separate account that your partner does not control. Consider budgeting for essentials you may need when you leave.
What to Bring / Document
- Identification (ID, passport, etc.)
- Financial documents (bank statements, pay stubs, etc.)
- Medical records and prescriptions
- Birth certificates for yourself and children
- Social Security cards
- Any legal documents (court orders, custody papers, etc.)
- Emergency contact information
- Personal items (clothing, toiletries, etc.)
What Happens Next
Once you leave, it’s important to continue to prioritize your safety. Consider seeking legal assistance to understand your rights. You may also want to engage with local support services, such as shelters or counseling services, for ongoing support.
Frequently Asked Questions
1. What should I do if I am in immediate danger?
If you are in immediate danger, please call local emergency services right away.
2. How can I find local resources for support?
You can find local resources by searching online or contacting local organizations dedicated to helping survivors.
3. What if I can’t leave right now?
If leaving isn’t an option currently, focus on creating a safety plan and gathering important documents discreetly.
4. How can I ensure my communication is safe?
Use secure methods of communication and consider using a safe phone or email account that your partner cannot access.
5. What legal steps should I take once I leave?
Consulting with a qualified local attorney can help you understand your rights and options after leaving.
If you want local help, you can privately browse lawyers, therapists, shelters, and hotlines near you at DV.Support.