How Survivors Secretly Prepare to Leave

Leaving a difficult situation can be daunting, but with careful planning and support, survivors can take control of their circumstances. This guide offers practical steps to prepare safely and effectively.

Assess Your Situation

Understanding your circumstances is the first step. Consider the following:

• Evaluate your safety: Are there immediate threats to your well-being?
• Identify trusted individuals: Who can you rely on for support?

Create a Safety Plan

Having a safety plan is crucial. Here are some steps to consider:

• Choose a safe place to go if you need to leave quickly.
• Decide how you will get there—consider transportation options.
• Keep a bag packed with essentials in a discreet location.

Gather Important Documents

Collecting important documents can make the transition smoother:

• Identification (e.g., driver's license, passport)
• Financial documents (e.g., bank statements, pay stubs)
• Legal papers (e.g., court orders, protection orders)
• Medical records, if applicable

Develop a Communication Strategy

Consider how you will communicate with your support network:

• Choose a safe method to reach out, such as a secure messaging app.
• Establish code words or phrases to indicate your situation.

What to Bring / Document Checklist

• Identification
• Financial resources (cash, credit cards)
• Essential clothing and personal items
• Important phone numbers
• Emergency contacts

What Happens Next

Once you leave, it’s important to think about what comes next:

• Seek safe housing options, such as shelters or trusted friends.
• Consider speaking with a legal professional to understand your rights.
• Connect with local support services for ongoing assistance.

Frequently Asked Questions

• What should I do if I’m in immediate danger? Call local emergency services for immediate assistance.
• Can I take my children with me? Yes, prioritize their safety and well-being.
• What if I don’t have any money? Reach out to local shelters or support organizations for help.
• How do I find legal assistance? Look for local attorneys who specialize in family law and domestic issues.
• Is it safe to talk about my plans? Only discuss your plans with trusted individuals who will support you.

If you want local help, you can privately browse lawyers, therapists, shelters, and hotlines near you at DV.Support.