How Survivors Secretly Prepare to Leave
Leaving a difficult situation can be one of the most challenging decisions a survivor makes. It’s important to prepare thoughtfully and ensure safety throughout the process. Here are some actionable steps to consider.
Assess Your Situation
Take time to evaluate your circumstances. Understand the dynamics at play and identify safe times and places where you can think clearly.
Create a Safety Plan
A safety plan is a personalized strategy to help you stay safe. Consider the following:
- Identify safe places you can go if you need to leave quickly.
- Establish a code word with trusted friends or family members to signal for help.
- Plan how to get to your safe place, considering transportation options.
Gather Important Documents
Collect essential documents that you may need when leaving. This can include:
- Identification (e.g., driver’s license, passport)
- Financial documents (e.g., bank statements)
- Medical records
- Legal documents (e.g., restraining orders, marriage certificates)
Secure Finances
Having financial independence is crucial. Consider opening a separate bank account or using cash to make purchases discreetly. Explore local resources for financial assistance if needed.
Establish a Support Network
Reach out to trusted friends, family, or community organizations. Building a support network can provide emotional support and practical help during your transition.
What to Bring / Document
- Identification and personal documents
- Essential medications
- Clothing and personal items for immediate needs
- Cash or credit cards
- Contact information for support services
What Happens Next
After leaving, focus on your safety and well-being. Consider reaching out to local shelters or organizations that can provide support. It’s important to take time to process your experiences and seek professional help if needed.
Frequently Asked Questions
- 1. How do I find a safe place to stay?
- Look for local shelters or reach out to friends or family who can provide a temporary home.
- 2. What if I can't leave right away?
- Focus on creating a safety plan and gathering necessary documents until you feel ready to leave.
- 3. Can I take my children with me?
- Yes, if it is safe to do so. Ensure their safety is also prioritized.
- 4. How can I find legal assistance?
- Contact local legal aid services or visit DV.Support for resources in your area.
- 5. What should I do if I encounter difficulties after leaving?
- Reach out to your support network and consider professional counseling for ongoing support.
If you want local help, you can privately browse lawyers, therapists, shelters, and hotlines near you at DV.Support.