How Survivors Secretly Prepare to Leave

Leaving an abusive situation can be daunting, but with careful planning and support, it is possible to take steps toward safety and independence.

Assessing Your Situation

Understanding your circumstances is the first step in creating a plan. Consider your safety, available resources, and potential risks. Take note of any immediate threats and prioritize your safety above all.

Creating a Safety Plan

A safety plan is a personalized strategy to help you leave safely. Here are some key components to include:

• Identify safe places you can go in an emergency.
• Establish a code word with trusted friends or family to signal when you need help.
• Plan your escape route, including transportation options.
• Consider how you will access funds and necessary resources.

Gathering Important Documents

Collecting essential documents ahead of time can streamline your exit. Consider the following:

• Identification (driver’s license, passport)
• Financial documents (bank statements, pay stubs)
• Medical records and prescriptions
• Birth certificates for you and your children
• Any legal documents (court orders, custody agreements)

What to Bring / Document Checklist

When you decide to leave, having a checklist can help ensure you don’t forget anything important:

• Clothing and personal items
• Medications and health supplies
• Important documents (as mentioned above)
• Emergency cash
• Mobile phone and charger
• Comfort items (for children, if applicable)

What Happens Next

After leaving, it's crucial to prioritize your safety and well-being. Here are some steps to consider:

• Find a safe place to stay, such as a shelter or with trusted friends/family.
• Connect with local support services for counseling, legal advice, and financial assistance.
• Consider changing your phone number or online accounts for added security.
• Stay connected with supportive individuals who can help you through this transition.

Frequently Asked Questions

• What should I do if I’m in immediate danger?
  Call local emergency services right away.
• How can I find a lawyer?
  Look for local resources, such as DV.Support, that can help connect you with legal professionals.
• What if I can’t leave right away?
  Continue to build your safety plan and gather resources until you can safely leave.
• Are there shelters in Rosedale-Moore Park?
  Yes, there are local shelters and resources available; reach out for assistance.
• How can I support a friend who is leaving an abusive situation?
  Listen without judgment, offer to help them gather resources, and encourage them to seek professional support.

If you want local help, you can privately browse lawyers, therapists, shelters, and hotlines near you at DV.Support.